Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. Previously not recognized as a form of intelligence, most psychologists today agree that there is real value to developing emotional intelligence, especially as it applies to knowing ourselves, reading and understanding others, and coping effectively with the stress we experience in life.
Unfortunately, because emotional intelligence is an abstract psychological concept not easily displayed through a mathematical equation nor put on a table for display at “Show & Tell” at school, many people still under-value (or do not recognize) the value of emotional intelligence. In fact, there aren’t even standardized tests that evaluate your level of emotional intelligence, as you won’t see it on the ACT, SAT, or any other academic achievement test. Still, emotional intelligence is very real, and may be the single most important variable as it relates to our human productivity, wellness, and overall happiness.
When we learn about ourselves and come to love ourselves, only then can we truly express our most genuine love toward others. By understanding our thoughts, feelings, and ways in which we process the world around us, we become better at navigating our lives and responding with healthy and productive emotions for the times in which we face stress, adversity, frustration, and failure. Yes, emotional intelligence is what allows us to keep ourselves “in check” when we need to, as well as exercise patience for those who might be different than us, or have conflicting views than our own.
When we develop our creative self we are actually enhancing our emotional intelligence, as we inevitably learn about the many and varied ways in which we look at the world around us, as well as gauge what things prompt us to feel emotions (good and bad). Improving our communication skills (verbal and non-verbal) also help us develop our emotional intelligence, as we learn how to keep our emotions under control when we interact with others who might not be considerate toward our feelings and views.
If you are interested in learning more about emotional intelligence, as well as strategies to help with happiness, emotional and physical health, and peak productivity, then check out Optimal Balance when you get a chance. This DVD is designed to help people learn about the psychological variables most closely associated with life success, and offers countless tips, ideas, and strategies to help you “break a slump,” or simply take your game to the next level.
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