As 2011 comes to an end and the new year approaches, millions of people worldwide are giving thought to what resolutions they would like to achieve in the coming year. For many, the goals will be fairly common ones, such as losing weight, quitting smoking, or getting back in shape. For others, the goals may be more unique and include ideas around becoming a better spouse, or earning a promotion at work. Regardless of what resolutions you set for 2012, the bigger challenge that looms for all goal setters is adhering to the goals (also known as goal compliance). In other words, developing mental toughness and actually doing what you want to do.
Throughout my life I have always appreciated little tidbits of motivational advice – one that I think about almost on a daily basis is the following:
“Ideas are a dime a dozen, but putting ideas into action is priceless”
It is from this perspective that I have studied others (and myself) as to why the “action” step to reaching the goals stated always seems to be the challenge. So often we start out with great intentions, but then something happens – and we fall short of reaching our goals. Over the years I have written extensively about what I have learned, and have even developed various life success programs to help others with their efforts. Admittedly, answering all the reasons why people sometimes fail to reach their goals in just a few paragraphs here is impossible, but there are a few quick key tips that I think can immediately help those out there who are eager to reach their 2012 new year resolutions:
- Life changes – especially ones you are serious about – don’t need a target date to get started (meaning you don’t need to wait until January 1st). Change can actually begin in a moments notice – and often does – so if you are really, really serious about your new goals, you are free to get started!
- When hurdles arise (and they will, like when a family member brings home junk food and you are trying to lose weight), the key is to train your mind to view these situations as challenges, not as threats. How you perceive the world around you will determine the actions that you take — roll your sleeves up for the challenge. It’s also a good idea to think about the challenges that are ahead of you, an effective technique therapists call stress inoculation.
- Be realistic. Research studies have consistently found that when people set goals that are too difficult or unrealistic, they often become demotivated and eventually quit. Instead, set challenging goals that you really believe you can achieve.
- Pay attention to daily, or micro-goals. Don’t overlook the little things as they will serve as strong building blocks for the months ahead.
- Go after your resolutions with conviction! Get excited and share your enthusiasm with others – not only will they cheer your efforts but also give you support during the tough times.
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