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Home / Blog / Helping Kids Handle Cuts in Sports

Helping Kids Handle Cuts in Sports

By: Dr. Chris Stankovich | @DrStankovich | Feb 06, 2020

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Being cut from a sports team can be one of the most devastating events in a kid’s life.  If being told you’re not good enough isn’t painful already, many kids feel angry, embarrassed, and confused with their feelings and how they should process the news about being deselected.  Being cut can be humbling, and it can also lead to pessimistic thoughts about trying out for the team again in the future — or any sports team for that matter.

The process of being cut

Being “cut” is the slang term used for when a student athlete is deselected from a sports team.  Usually the reason a kid is cut from a team has to do with lacking sport skills, but other reasons may relate to being academically ineligible, physically injured and unable to play, or perhaps the toughest reason of all, “politics.”  Regardless of why a kid gets cut from a team, it’s safe to assume that the vast majority of these kids were not anticipating being cut, and even fewer will be unaffected in a negative way from the news.

There are differences in the ways in which coaches deliver the news of being cut to kids, from simply taping a list on the coach’s office door to more sensitive measures that include delivering the news to kids privately.  The net result, regardless of how the news is delivered, is that kids who are cut will need to face the reality that for this upcoming season they will not be a part of the team and being around their teammates.  As you can imagine, this is often really heavy stuff for kids to work through and rebound from moving forward.

What you can do

While it is true that when a kid gets cut from a sports team, it’s an intimate experience that only the individual can experience and process.  Still, family, friends, and even coaches can help by using the following tips:

  • Talk frankly, but show sensitivity.  When talking to kids who have been cut, it’s OK to talk about the experience openly and honestly.  Remind kids that this is just one of the many hurdles and challenges they will face in life, but also allow a shoulder to lean on when needed.  You might also use the expression “it’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get up” as you discuss the value of resiliency and perseverance.
  • Reflect using an internal locus of control.  Try to prevent kids from finger-pointing and calling out “politics” as the reason they were cut from the team.  Rather than spending time blaming the coach (and others), try to instead encourage kids to look inward and ask powerful questions like “What could I have done better?”  “What are my areas of weakness that need improved?”  How can I come back again next time and perform better?”
  • Solicit feedback.  While it may not be a pleasant thought, kids who follow up with the coach to learn where they fell short often receive invaluable feedback that can be used to set future goals.  Steer clear of pointing at other athletes and making comparisons, and instead simply seek to learn what you can do for future self-improvement.
  • Set future goals.  As you receive feedback from the coaches, put that information into action with new future goals that are specific, measurable, and controllable.

Final thoughts

Being cut from a sports team is never fun, but it can be an invaluable learning experience that can lead to future success.  Try to avoid assuming “politics” were to blame, and instead learn the specific areas that need improved for the next time there are tryouts.  And finally, it’s important to remember that many great athletes — including Michael Jordan — were once cut from sports teams, making it important to stay positive and optimistic for future success.

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