One of the most effective ways we can maximize our human potential is to do something that is remarkably easy to do, but sadly, regularly overlooked and/or taken for granted. Specifically, I am talking about the power of asking questions. Yes, you heard that right — in my experience far too many times we refrain from asking questions, and we do so for a variety of reasons. For some people they feel like they will be a burden by asking, for others they feel like their questions are too remedial and they will look dumb, and for others they just assume they will eventually figure it out on their own. Unfortunately, every time we decide to not ask a question we miss out on a fantastic opportunity to gain knowledge, save time, increase motivation, and strengthen our human resiliency.
Think for a moment how this applies to you. Are you unsure of something right now? Frustrated that you are not as efficient or effective as you could be at something? Are you too proud to ask for help, or feel like you will be exposed in some way if you do? Would asking the right person about the questions you have potentially make a world of difference??
The power of questions
Being determined to figure things out on your own has its time and place, but if this is your modus operandi for everything in life you are probably not working as efficiently and effectively as you could be. In fact, most happy, healthy, successful people regularly ask questions and listen closely for answers and advice, and then put what they have learned in to action for future success. Some additional things to consider when examining the power of asking questions:
- People like to answer questions. Generally speaking, most people like to be looked at as experts, and don’t mind at all when it comes to them answering questions (in fact, oftentimes they are flattered).
- Questions lead to new discoveries. Sometimes when searching for answers we get into ruts, or grooved patterns and ways of thinking. When we talk to others who might know more (or different) information, we often develop new paradigms and methodologies that lead to better results.
- Pride gets in the way. I think the biggest thing that stops us from asking questions is our pride, and this is indeed unfortunate. Humans often think that by asking a question they will be exposed or look foolish (or dumb), and consequently sit on questions they really need answered.
The power of questions for student athletes
Student athletes should ask a lot of questions, as they should have a lot of questions they need answered! They should have questions around technique, training methods, coach expectations, role modeling, leadership, and countless more questions pertaining how to successfully manage academics, sports, family/friends, and social/career interests and responsibilities. Being an active, questioning student athlete should be the template for success, not viewed as “more work.”
Tips for asking questions
- Be respectful. Be genuine when you approach a coach or teacher with a question, and politely let them know that you think they would be an ideal person to learn from with respect to the question(s) you have.
- Be specific. Try to respect the person’s time by having specific questions rather than broad, general questions that are difficult to answer. For example, instead of asking a coach “What do I need to do to get better?” try and specify your question into more manageable questions, like “How can I improve my free throw shooting?” or “What drills should I do to improve my hand-eye coordination?”
- Take notes. Your questions will be worthless unless you remember (and put into action) the feedback you are given. Ask if you can take notes, and assuming you are given permission be sure to clarify ambiguities, and detail all important tips and suggestions.
- Show your appreciation. Make sure to say “thanks!”
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