It turns out that for many athletes attempting to maximize their athletic abilities, learning sport skills is the easier task compared to developing the focus, motivation and resiliency needed to succeed. Put another way, learning a sport skill (i.e. to throw a curve ball or accurately shoot a basketball) is simpler than developing daily motivation or implementing stress coping skills to deal with frustration and adversity. Mental toughness is perhaps the most important set of skills an athlete can develop in order to reach their full potential — even if dedicated training in this area is sometimes ignored or overlooked.
Passion & purpose
Successful athletes often have a passion and purpose for what they do — they are dedicated to their goals, and have specific goals they actively pursue. It is passion and purpose (intrinsic motivation) that helps us overcome life obstacles,focus on our goals, and outwork the competition. When you love what you do, what looks like work to others is simply an enjoyable activity to you. This is why passionate athletes are often the first ones to practice, and the last ones to leave.
I believe we all have passion and purpose in our lives, even if we are not yet clear what things in life prompt us to act on these qualities. Unfortunately in sports, not every athlete has passion and purpose for playing their sport — while some do, many play because they are good at the sport, or because others in their life (like their parents) expect them to play. While there is nothing wrong with playing sports without passion and purpose, I believe it limits athletes from reaching their full athletic potential. Many coaches and parents involved in youth sports struggle with this concept, as they see the natural talents some kids possess but don’t see the “heart” and motivation suggesting intrinsic motivation.
Athletes with passion and purpose often submerge themselves in the process of their training. Of course, they may complain under the hot sun of a 2-a-day football workout, but in the big picture they appreciate all the hard work that goes into excelling in their sport. To be clear – having passion and purpose does not imply that athletes will love every moment of training, but instead suggests that they have the heart and motivation to push through the tough times.
When athletes do not have passion and purpose, the “holes in their game” tend to show through during tough times. Take for example when an athlete is playing well – everything is great and the athlete seems to play effortlessly. But what happens when a slump occurs? Without passion and purpose, the typical response is to give in to the pressure and stress, and/or begin to point fingers away from oneself and onto just about anything else (i.e. the coach, referee, other team, weather, etc).
When athletes have passion and purpose, they quickly move through tough times and stay hungry for the next day. Their resiliency is seemingly hard-wired into their DNA, and they understand and accept that they will take their lumps along their way to greatness. Stress and failure are actually accounted for in the passionate athletes mind, and therefore quickly (and successfully) dealt with efficiently.
Keep an eye out for your child’s passion & purpose
While it’s debatable whether you can teach passion and purpose, you can look for it. If you are a parent take note of the things your child loves to do – what gets him up early in the morning and keeps him up late at night? Some of you reading this today can attest you see it in athletics, while others reading this may come to the conclusion that while your child is a pretty good athlete, she may not have that never-say-die commitment needed to reach her full athletic potential – and that’s OK.
As a clinician who regularly sees athletes, its pretty obvious the ones I meet with who are completely devoted to their training, versus those who are pretty good at their sport but not necessarily passionate about it. Neither is right or wrong, good or bad; but the differences are quite stark and are usually good predictors of which athlete will stay in his sport longer (and more likely succeed in the long run).
In closing, one sports quote I love to use with athletes is “the only thing you deserve is what you earn.” I’m not sure who first coined that phrase, but it is very telling and makes perfect sense. Passionate athletes know this, and don’t make excuses for their failures and shortcomings. Instead, they use each lesson as a building block to do it even better tomorrow.
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