There’s an old saying I like to use with clients that goes “if you ask the right questions, you will receive the right answers.” There is a lot of utility in using this self-improvement approach in life, as it allows for personal control, creativity and problem-solving, improved mental health, and ultimately a greater chance for accumulating more knowledge. But is it really as simple as asking questions, or is there more nuance in using this approach? Asking the wrong questions doesn’t usually do much, but asking the right questions can make all the difference when it comes to happiness and success. For example, an athlete might waste time trying to think about how to shut up his critics, when that time could instead be used more effectively by asking powerful questions designed to further improve his game, thereby shutting up the critics! As you can see, the type of questions really do matter!
What are the “right” questions to ask?
Generally speaking, any self-improvement that makes you think and reflect is healthy to do, but if you want to take your game to the next level, the kinds of questions you ask yourself really do matter. For example, asking yourself “How do I feel today?” is a nice way to think about important things like how much rest you need, or if you need to grab a bite to eat to get thorough the day. But what would happen if you better developed your questions to be even more effective? Below are a few examples of powerful questions that often lead to successful results:
- What specific things do I need to do to improve my scores in math?
- Using what I learned yesterday in basketball, how can I develop a routine at home to continue to improve?
- My time management needs to be much better, what apps or tools are available that would help?
- I want to get a job, but how do I create a resume and cover letter?
- I have been feeling kind of sad lately, what things can I do to improve my mental health?
Of course, simply asking better questions is just part of the challenge, as you have to actually do the things you tell yourself to do! With that said, I think you can see the difference between general and specific self-questions, and how the latter almost always leads to more detailed and specific steps to pursue for future success. The big point is to not simply “go through the motions” and ask basic questions, but to instead push yourself with refined questions based on what you already know, as well as what you need to learn moving forward.
Final thoughts
Be proactive when it comes to your happiness and success, and you can get started today by asking powerful, specific questions. Rather than view self-questions as a waste of time or unnecessary, try instead to open your mind and think freely about all the possible solutions to your current challenges. Improve your mental health and create better chances for future success by investing in yourself, and asking powerful, specific questions is a great way to start.
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